FAMILY THERAPY

It is a nice feeling to have someone whose got your back and realize that they really play a big role in your life. Someone who you have been with for almost all your life. As we grow, we start to focus on our lives,career,education, relationships among other things that come along our daily activities. With all these things occurring, we seem to assume many things that we care about and those people who inspire us to do what we do.

Recently, I have been preoccupied with lots of things and the truth of the matter is,all of us are. With all this happening, I have been out of touch with my family for a while and I didn't seem to notice it until my Dad called me. For a moment, I thought that all was well by just calling my family once in a while to know how they are doing and that will be it, but that was just a misconception and I stayed in this state for a while until the reality dawned on me.

I started feeling a vacuum in me that needed to be filled with family love. It was so intense that I even had to spare some time and make a visit to see my family. It however took me some time before  I made the decision to make the visit. To me it seemed like leaving my commitments to visit them would cause a halt somewhere but all in all my mind was made up to visit them.I planned for a surprise visit when they would least expect me, a week day preferably, since they knew I usually have a tight schedule and would not visit them on the week days.

When I went home, as foreseen, they were all surprised and my siblings came towards me with smiles that express the joy and love they have for me and oh, their hugs just made me feel welcomed. My mum on the other hand, didn't seem to notice what was going around because she was in the kitchen.
When she finally saw me, she shouted my name in a manner that would have made it known to anyone that for sure I have not been there for sometime. She came towards me with her arms wide open ready to give me a huge hug. How I felt, I don't know how to put it in words but in summary, I felt missed,cared for, but mostly Loved. My dad was still waiting for my mum to finish with her hugs and greetings. When I greeted my dad, I felt appreciated, welcomed and also loved. I felt loved with everyone around and this made me shed some tears because I couldn't hold them back.
My heart was filled with happiness and joy; all the tiredness, the pressure from work, the busy life, the tension, anxiety..... the list continues was all gone in that moment. I felt relieved and free from the worries I had before visiting them. I tried to think of what I have left behind but I couldn't, all that I could feel is that loving and happy feeling. We spent some time together and also some briefing here and there. I must admit that I had missed my mum's food and what I had,was just perfect!

We spent almost the whole night with my siblings talking about school and counseling them. Whoever said that "Laughter is the best medicine" he/she was very right and could have possibly experienced what I was experiencing. The laughter and  the happiness, gave me a refreshing feeling that energized me. I felt relaxed..... even that feeling you get when you take a long warm bath after tonnes of exercise can't compare.

By the time I was departing to go back to my usual busy life, I had noticed the changes that had taken place emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally. This really opened my mind to realize that we need not to pile up all the worries and tension of our daily activities and then go to a therapist yet we have our families,friends and relatives who can be our therapists and psychiatrists. I got to understand one part of the family benefits that God intended to be, and that is sharing and loving.

You might be miles away or so busy that you don't have enough time to spend with your family/loved ones but just take some time off even if its 2 hours to spend with them and enjoy their company and I'm very certain that you will not be the same again. It worked for me and I'm sure it will work for most of you. I just had to share this out because it is worth  sharing and I know it can help restore someone somewhere.

I call this the FAMILY THERAPY... And I recommend you to try it!!

TECHNO LOVE

So amazing how i got to know you, I remember it well as if it was yesterday.
It started in simple ways; "just saying hi, knowing how your day was,wishing a good day,
asking you to take care,saying goodnight and wishing you sweet dreams.
Here we are now together, connected by one thing; Techno Love.

I don't know you well and neither do you, but due to frequent chatting
through Facebook,Twitter, Skype, My space, E-mails and all other
social networks out there.
Hhmm, its just funny to know how over the technology we so connected like pen and paper,
I'm not sure what you do, where you go or if what you have on your profile...
and maybe what you told me is true.
Ooh this Techno Love.

With time it shifted from chatting through Internet social networks
to local mobile networks; Calling and Texts. Ooh how I remember
the sleepless nights as we text and afterwards finger-aches.
We text from evening to almost the next morning and I don't feel like
ending the conversation and this has made the connection so tight.
Damn! This Techno Love is making me go insane.

I'm finding it hard to focus on something because all I'm thinking about
is chatting with you. I have found it difficult to put an end to this because
I am kinda addicted to this Techno Love.

I don't know whether to thank or blame the Technology.
All this developments and adjustments are bringing changes in peoples
lives that are either amazing, informative or addictive.
Hhhmm This TECHNO LOVE!!!

BEST FRIENDS

I don't know how else i can describe you,
You are more than a friend to me,
Much more I love you like my sister.
Ever since that time we officially
knew each other,we've been the best of friends.

You know my secrets and i know yours
You scratched my back and
so did I in return.you covered me up when i was
in trouble and so did I too.

You were there when I needed you the most,
your help and support made me never lose hope
on certain things in this world.

Your caring actions make me stronger each day,
I've learnt a lot from you as you have always
taught me many things concerning life.

No that you are far from me,
i feel lonely because I'm not with my best friend
close to me as were before.I'm happy for you,
because of where you are cause you inspire me,
especially when knowing what got you there.
I miss you and all your fabulous stories and
of course without forgetting you great lectures.

For what i am,you have played a big part
on making it possible for me.Do your very best
in whatever you do and ALWAYS,ALWAYS!!!!
remember to put GOD first and know that i love
you and always will.....

HURRICANE

Entirely strange, where have you come from,
You have taken me from the and i don't know
Where you are taking me,ooh Hurricane?

You have twirled me round and round,
Now I'm completely lost. You have taken me
From one direction to another not knowing where
I'm headed.....Where are you taking me ooh Hurricane?

You have destroyed all that I had,
Completely ruined everything that was firm and in place,
Now I'm torn into pieces and all my dreams and aspiration to dust,
How do you expect me to recover from all this?
Where did you come from, Hurricane?

 Total despair is what can be used to describe my position
which you have left me. I have a family, business,education,
career, future to worry and care about, but now I am close to
nothing....Why did you come my way, ooh Hurricane?

 I know you might be facing a situation that is similarly to the hurricane,by this I mean all the things that you have viewed as bad luck in your life e.g. being fired,divorced, you have drop out of school due to lack of school fees among other things. I just want to encourage you that it will not last forever and that tomorrow always brings something new......Watch this space for a continuation of this post.. Let me get your comments on this for the meantime.

I WANT TO WIN THIS FIGHT.

Fight is on and the light is gone,
I'm I on my on own, on this battle ground.
My hope is gone, I don't have any Faith nomore,
I don't want to fall on this battle ground.
Show me a sign,
I really want win this fight.

Be my moonlight tonight,
Give me a clear sight,
To see through the dark,
I really want to win this fight.

Please listen to my call,
I don't belong into this dark zone.
I don't want this dark no more, during this war.
Create me a new hope, a faith to move on.
shine upon my life, I really want to win this fight.

GENTLE TOUCH.

Tik, tok, tik, tok, time is moving on, 

is there anything i'm missing?

Should I move on or should I wait for the right moment?

I stand silent in the line, worried and somehow filled with fear and doubt,

Is someone out there, who cares for me?

I feel overwhelmed with all that is happening to me and what I see coming my way

Will my faith be renewed; will I still have awe to anyone or anything?

Please fill me with new strength to face all these I pray.

It’s nice to have a clue that there is someone holding you always,

Even though this is how I’m feeling, you have shown me that you are with me,

And you never left me even for a second.

I was hungry and you fed me, empty and you filled me,

I was weak and weary but you touched me with your Gentle Touch

And I was strengthened again.

A gentle touch that made me feel elated,

A touch that twirled everything and made me bated and I don’t know what to expect next.

But now I have the assurance that everything will be okay,

Because I can still feel 

Your Gentle Touch.