FAMILY THERAPY

It is a nice feeling to have someone whose got your back and realize that they really play a big role in your life. Someone who you have been with for almost all your life. As we grow, we start to focus on our lives,career,education, relationships among other things that come along our daily activities. With all these things occurring, we seem to assume many things that we care about and those people who inspire us to do what we do.

Recently, I have been preoccupied with lots of things and the truth of the matter is,all of us are. With all this happening, I have been out of touch with my family for a while and I didn't seem to notice it until my Dad called me. For a moment, I thought that all was well by just calling my family once in a while to know how they are doing and that will be it, but that was just a misconception and I stayed in this state for a while until the reality dawned on me.

I started feeling a vacuum in me that needed to be filled with family love. It was so intense that I even had to spare some time and make a visit to see my family. It however took me some time before  I made the decision to make the visit. To me it seemed like leaving my commitments to visit them would cause a halt somewhere but all in all my mind was made up to visit them.I planned for a surprise visit when they would least expect me, a week day preferably, since they knew I usually have a tight schedule and would not visit them on the week days.

When I went home, as foreseen, they were all surprised and my siblings came towards me with smiles that express the joy and love they have for me and oh, their hugs just made me feel welcomed. My mum on the other hand, didn't seem to notice what was going around because she was in the kitchen.
When she finally saw me, she shouted my name in a manner that would have made it known to anyone that for sure I have not been there for sometime. She came towards me with her arms wide open ready to give me a huge hug. How I felt, I don't know how to put it in words but in summary, I felt missed,cared for, but mostly Loved. My dad was still waiting for my mum to finish with her hugs and greetings. When I greeted my dad, I felt appreciated, welcomed and also loved. I felt loved with everyone around and this made me shed some tears because I couldn't hold them back.
My heart was filled with happiness and joy; all the tiredness, the pressure from work, the busy life, the tension, anxiety..... the list continues was all gone in that moment. I felt relieved and free from the worries I had before visiting them. I tried to think of what I have left behind but I couldn't, all that I could feel is that loving and happy feeling. We spent some time together and also some briefing here and there. I must admit that I had missed my mum's food and what I had,was just perfect!

We spent almost the whole night with my siblings talking about school and counseling them. Whoever said that "Laughter is the best medicine" he/she was very right and could have possibly experienced what I was experiencing. The laughter and  the happiness, gave me a refreshing feeling that energized me. I felt relaxed..... even that feeling you get when you take a long warm bath after tonnes of exercise can't compare.

By the time I was departing to go back to my usual busy life, I had noticed the changes that had taken place emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally. This really opened my mind to realize that we need not to pile up all the worries and tension of our daily activities and then go to a therapist yet we have our families,friends and relatives who can be our therapists and psychiatrists. I got to understand one part of the family benefits that God intended to be, and that is sharing and loving.

You might be miles away or so busy that you don't have enough time to spend with your family/loved ones but just take some time off even if its 2 hours to spend with them and enjoy their company and I'm very certain that you will not be the same again. It worked for me and I'm sure it will work for most of you. I just had to share this out because it is worth  sharing and I know it can help restore someone somewhere.

I call this the FAMILY THERAPY... And I recommend you to try it!!