It
is a nice feeling to have someone whose got your back and realize that they
really play a big role in your life. Someone who you have been with for almost
all your life. As we grow, we start to focus on our lives,career,education,
relationships among other things that come along our daily activities. With all
these things occurring, we seem to assume many things that we care about and
those people who inspire us to do what we do.
Recently, I have been preoccupied with lots of things and the truth of the
matter is,all of us are. With all this happening, I have been out of touch with
my family for a while and I didn't seem to notice it until my Dad called me.
For a moment, I thought that all was well by just calling my family once in a
while to know how they are doing and that will be it, but that was just a
misconception and I stayed in this state for a while until the reality dawned
on me.
I started feeling a vacuum in me that needed to be filled with family love.
It was so intense that I even had to spare some time and make a visit to see my
family. It however took me some time before I made the decision to make
the visit. To me it seemed like leaving my commitments to visit them would
cause a halt somewhere but all in all my mind was made up to visit them.I
planned for a surprise visit when they would least expect me, a week day
preferably, since they knew I usually have a tight schedule and would not visit
them on the week days.
When I went home, as foreseen, they were all surprised and my siblings came
towards me with smiles that express the joy and love they have for me and oh,
their hugs just made me feel welcomed. My mum on the other hand, didn't seem to
notice what was going around because she was in the kitchen.
When she finally saw me, she shouted my name in a manner that would have
made it known to anyone that for sure I have not been there for sometime. She
came towards me with her arms wide open ready to give me a huge hug. How I
felt, I don't know how to put it in words but in summary, I felt missed,cared
for, but mostly Loved. My dad was still waiting for my mum to finish with her
hugs and greetings. When I greeted my dad, I felt appreciated, welcomed and
also loved. I felt loved with everyone around and this made me shed some tears
because I couldn't hold them back.
My heart was filled with happiness and joy; all the tiredness, the pressure
from work, the busy life, the tension, anxiety..... the list continues was all
gone in that moment. I felt relieved and free from the worries I had before
visiting them. I tried to think of what I have left behind but I couldn't, all
that I could feel is that loving and happy feeling. We spent some time together
and also some briefing here and there. I must admit that I had missed my mum's
food and what I had,was just perfect!
We spent almost the whole night with my siblings talking about school and
counseling them. Whoever said that "
Laughter is the best medicine"
he/she was very right and could have possibly experienced what I was
experiencing. The laughter and the happiness, gave me a refreshing
feeling that energized me. I felt relaxed..... even that feeling you get when
you take a long warm bath after tonnes of exercise can't compare.
By the time I was departing to go back to my usual busy life, I had noticed
the changes that had taken place emotionally, spiritually, physically and
mentally. This really opened my mind to realize that we need not to pile up all
the worries and tension of our daily activities and then go to a therapist yet
we have our families,friends and relatives who can be our therapists and
psychiatrists. I got to understand one part of the family benefits that God
intended to be, and that is sharing and loving.
You might be miles away or so busy that you don't have enough time to spend
with your family/loved ones but just take some time off even if its 2 hours to
spend with them and enjoy their company and I'm very certain that you will not
be the same again. It worked for me and I'm sure it will work for most of you.
I just had to share this out because it is worth sharing and I know it
can help restore someone somewhere.
I call this the
FAMILY
THERAPY... And I recommend you to try it!!
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